You create your own reality. The basis of your creation is in how you feel. The way you feel will lead you to certain thoughts, that eventually will manifest in the physical form, if held for more than 16 seconds. The people in your life are co-creators to your own reality, by constantly showing you how you feel.
Please remember this: the people around you are not an indication of who you are, they are an indication of how you feel.
If you feel sad, you will attract people who will tell you certain things, or act in a certain way, that will point out to you how sad you actually are. If you feel angry, you will attract certain people that will point out to you how angry you actually are. So for example, if you are a little angry, you will get a little angry at them, even if they yell like crazy, and if you are very very angry, you will yell at them like crazy, even if they just winked at you. Your first reaction is to blame them for how they made you feel, but with further analysis you will realize that the feeling was already there. By “there”, I mean in your vibrational field. It doesn’t matter if you managed to distract yourself in the moment with some activities, as long as something is in your vibrational field, you will attract a match to it, so you can acknowledge it, so you can question it, so you can decide upon how helpful it is to you, and so you can clear it out, in case it is not helpful.
How does a feeling get in your vibrational field in the first place? Simple : By focusing on it.
If for example, at some point you experienced a feeling, and you kept your focus on it, it got attached to your vibrational field. If you want to get rid of it, just stop focusing on it.
So for example if someone comes at you with abusive words, try not to focus on it more than 16 seconds, and it will not attach to your vibrational field, thus you will not attract that kind of behavior in the future.
Focus on the positive aspects in people. Focus on the positive aspects in yourself and in your environment, and slowly but steady you will clear your vibrational field of unwanted things. The key is to keep your focus on a positive aspect for more than 16 seconds, and you will attract more of those positive aspects.
This is what actually forgiveness is. Forgiveness is the ability to not focus on the actions of others. The more we focus on the actions towards us, and the feeling that comes with that, the more it will remain in our vibrational field, thus attracting more of that.
We cannot control how others react. But we can certainly control how we feel towards how others act, by controlling our focus.
Always ask yourself: Do I want to be right? or do I want to be happy? Do I want to control what this person thinks of me, or do I want to be happy? Do I want this person’s approval, or do I want to be happy?
I for one, would definitely choose to be happy every single time! Happy, haaappy, happy!