The Cause of Pain and How to Avoid It

What is pain?

Pain is the effect of a powerful desire blocked by a contradictory thought/belief regarding that desire.

The full process of pain birth is the following:

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Example: Someone offers you a new job offer (external factors), and this triggers inside you the desire to change jobs, but also it triggers your personal thought patterns/belief regarding new jobs. 

If your thoughts match your desire (example: “new jobs are refreshing”, “new jobs can mean meeting beautiful new people”, “a new job is good for my mental health”) , then you will experience positive emotion-> optimism, enthusiasm, which will cause an overall bliss-> you will create new positive external factors, like new job opportunities or offers.

If your thoughts don’t match your desire (example: “new jobs are risky”, “new jobs means being hard to socialise”, “new job will cause me anxiety”), then you will experience negative emotion-> fear, anxiety, pessimism, which will cause pain-> you will create negative external factors like a disease, “bad luck”, delays and blockages, lack of new opportunities.

Where pain is manifested?

Inside our bodies, pain manifests at first in the energetic form, felt later on through our emotions, and if ignored, it will manifest in the physical form through illnesses.

The area of your body in which you experience pain is not a coincidence.


The energetic body is divided in 7 main areas, ruled by an energetic field or energetic vortex, called chakra. The nature of your thoughts can determine an energetic blockage in a specific chakra, causing emotional and physical pain in that specific area.

The Root Chakra



If you experience pain in the: coccyx, anus, large intestine, adrenal glands,  back, legs, feet or bones, then your root chakra is affected.

The root chakra is the first chakra, in red colour, and it is associated with the following functions or behavioural characteristics:

  • Security, safety
  • Survival
  • Basic needs (food, sleep, shelter, self-preservation, etc.)
  • Physicality, physical identity and aspects of self
  • Grounding
  • Support and foundation for living our lives

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you lose some money (external factor), which will cause a strong a desire to make more money fast. If your next thought pattern will be of lack , for example, a deep rooted belief from childhood, that money doesn’t grow on trees, and that it’s very hard to gain money overnight, then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (fear, anxiety), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident.

The Sacral Chakra



If you experience pain in the :  sexual organs, Ovaries /Testicles, bladder, bowel or lower intestine, then your sacral chakra is affected.

The sacral chakra, is the second chakra, in orange colour, and it is associated with the following psychological and behavioural functions:

  • Emotions, feelings
  • Relationships, relating
  • Expression of sexuality, sensual pleasure
  • Feeling the outer and inner worlds
  • Creativity
  • Fantasies

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you meet a new person (external factor), which will cause a strong a desire to be with that person. If your next thought pattern will be of self sabotage, like “pleasure is wrong or sinful or dangerous”, inflicted upon you by your parents, religion or society rules,  then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (shame, guilt ), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident.

The Solar Plexus Chakra


If you experience pain in the : stomach, gall bladder, spleen, liver, etc. – as well as the skin as a system, the muscular system as a system, and the face in general, then your solar plexus chakra is affected.

The Solar Plexus chakra, is the third chakra, in yellow colour, and it is associated with the following psychological and behavioural functions:

  • Expression of will
  • Intellectual abilities
  • The “accounting mind” that categorizes everything, assesses the pluses and minuses in life
  • Personal power
  • Ability to establish ideas and plans into reality
  • At higher levels, it conveys wisdom

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you see an inspiring idea or project (external factor), which will cause a strong a desire to create your own project. If your next thought pattern will be of self sabotage, like “I’m too stupid to create this”, or “I don’t have what it takes” , inflicted upon you by your parents, society rules or school, teachers,  then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (low self esteem, pessimism, guilt), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident.

The Heart Chakra


If you experience pain in the : Circulatory System and Thymus Gland, more specifically the heart, lungs, blood and circulation, then your heart chakra is affected.

The Heart chakra is associated with the following psychological and behavioural characteristics:

  • Capacity to love
  • Integration, bridge between earthly and spiritual aspirations
  • Transcending personal identity and limitations of the ego
  • Experience of unconditional love and connection with all
  • Heart-centered discernment
  • Appreciation of beauty in all things
  • Experiencing deep and meaningful relationships

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you fall in love with a person (external factor), which will cause a strong a desire to continue to love that person. If your next thought pattern will be to close your heart, like “Love is risky”, or “That person doesn’t deserve my love” , inflicted upon you by your parents, society rules or friends,  then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (hate, frustration), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident. (The typical heart ache  )

The Throat Chakra


If you experience pain in the :  mouth, jaws, tongue, pharynx, palate, shoulders or neck., then your throat chakra is affected.

The Throat chakra is associated with the following psychological and behavioural characteristics:

  • Expression, in particular ability to express your truth, to speak out
  • Communication, whether it’s verbal or non-verbal, external or internal
  • Connection with the etheric realm, the more subtle realms of spirit and intuitive abilities
  • Propensity to create, projecting ideas and blueprints into reality
  • Realising your vocation, purpose
  • Good sense of timing

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you meet a person that you admire a lot (external factor), which will cause a strong a desire to express your truth to that person. If your next thought pattern will be of self sabotage, like “They will laugh at me”, or “They will reject what I have to say” , inflicted upon you by your parents, society rules or friends,  then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (fear, anxiety), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident.

The third eye chakra


If you experience pain in the :  face, nose, sinuses, ears, eyes, brain, function of the pituitary gland, cerebellum, central nervous system, or the centre of the forehead., then your third eye chakra is affected.

The third eye chakra is associated with the following psychological and behavioural characteristics:

  • Vision
  • Intuition
  • Perception of subtle dimensions and movements of energy
  • Psychic abilities related to clairvoyance and clairaudience especially
  • Access to mystical states, illumination
  • Connection to wisdom, insight
  • Motivates inspiration and creativity

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you have a gut feeling regarding a person, without proof (external factor), which will cause a strong a desire to avoid that person. If your next thought pattern will be of doubt, like “I must be exaggerating”, or “I don’t have logic reasons to believe this” , inflicted upon you by your parents, society rules or religion,  then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (doubt, fear, anxiety), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident.

The Crown Chakra


If you experience pain in the :  top of the spinal cord, brain stem, pain centre and nerves, then your crown chakra is affected.

The crown chakra is associated with the following psychological and behavioural characteristics:

  • Consciousness
  • Awareness of higher consciousness, wisdom, of what is sacred
  • Connection with the formless, the limitless
  • Realisation, liberation from limiting patterns
  • Communion with higher states of consciousness, with
  • Ecstasy, bliss
  • Presence

Example of pain birth in this area: 

Let’s say you experience a death of a loved one or a close friend, and this will trigger a desire to connect with God or the spirit world. If your next thought pattern will be of doubt or denial of any higher power, like “people who believe in life after death are weak or stupid”, or” God is just a made up thing for weak people”, inflicted upon you by your parents, society rules or religion,  then the miss match between your desire and thoughts, will cause negative emotion (fear, anxiety), and later on if ignored, will cause pain in any of the body parts mentioned above -gradually, instantly out of nowhere or through an accident.

How to avoid emotional pain

To avoid the emotional pain, you will have to make sure your desires match your thoughts.

Some people ,that are stuck for years in negative and limiting thought patterns, prefer to limit and change their desires, to match their thoughts, so they can avoid the pain. But this will stop you from evolving, from expanding your mind and your spirit. Your desires should be daring and complex, as you are worthy of good things in life.

So the best way to avoid pain in an expansive matter , is by altering and changing your thought patterns.

This is a lot harder than it sounds, since a lot of your thought patterns are hard written within you since childhood.

So the best way of dealing with strong thoughts, is by eliminating them all together. How? Simple-> Meditation.

Believe it or not 10 minutes per day should be enough. Especially when you feel overwhelmed with thoughts. Now I won’t show you also how to meditate. There are a lot of ways to do that : by spending time in nature, through music, with guided meditations, breathing exercises, yoga, dancing  etc.  Just search info on the internet and choose something that fits you best.

How to avoid physical pain

So let’s say you’re not willing to meditate or change your thoughts/ beliefs, or maybe you have tried and nothing worked, and now you’re stuck in this cycle of emotional pain, and you want to avoid the next step of physical pain.

Well in that case, I actually have something to recommend you. It’s called EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), and their effect can be pretty powerful.

Just search online more on this topic. My personal favourite on this area are the videos from Brad Yates on Youtube. I love his videos. They worked for me almost instantly. Here is an example:

The physical pain is manifested! What now?

So you didn’t know that you can avoid pain, and now you are stuck with it, in a form of a disease.

Well from this point you can seek the help of healer. A modern medicine healer ( a specialised doctor) or an alternative doctor, depending on what feels best for you.

The cures they provide will sooth the effects of the pain, but chances are they will not eliminate the cause. So after treating your pain, it’s essential you check in with your desires, thoughts, and emotions, to make sure the pain and disease will not return.

I know a lot of people are tempted to try spiritual healing methods, once the pain is manifested in physical form. That can work if you have experience with this, or if the pain is not very dangerous or uncommon,  but unfortunately most of the times, physical pain may call for physical cures : medicine, special diet, special exercises, medical interventions or even operations.

I hope you found this guide helpful.

Lots of love to you all!


The contrast of falling in love

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 What is falling in love?

The feeling of falling in love or infatuation is actually the feeling of focusing on the positive aspects of someone.

Most of the times, this happens at the beginning of the relationship, when you barely know the person, so it’s easy to spot only the positive aspects of that person, whether they are real or imagined.

While you focus on positive aspects, you actually shift your vibration, or energetic field, to a positive state. You can only observe positive aspects from a positive vibration, from a place of well being, from a place of positive emotions.

In other words, you use another person, as an excuse to connect yourself to Source Energy, or Love, or God or how ever you want to call it.

An other thing that causes these good feelings, is the fact that the positive aspects you see in the other, are actually your positive aspects too, that you haven’t acknowledged about yourself, and it feels divine to rediscover them in an other.

This is actually a big lesson to learn in the journey of loving ourselves. All the things we admire in others are actually within us. Otherwise, we have never have noticed them! You cannot notice something that it isn’t already in yourself. The reason you don’t see it in yourself, is because it has been stagnant or hidden for many years, because of society rules or external factors that made you focus elsewhere,  but you certainly had them while you were a child.  The more positive aspects you have in common with someone, the more attracted you will feel towards them, and the more delicious the experience of spending time with them will be. More on this topic here.

The False Falling in Love

The False falling in love , is when you encounter someone with whom you are a perfect match on many levels, with whom you have a lot in common, but unfortunately not in the good areas.

This is the person who hates the same things as you, who complains about the same life problems as you, who will get angry with you, who will laugh while making fun of certain people, who will get drunk with you, and smoke with you, who will cover for you while you do a bad deed.

You obviously will feel very attracted to this person, because of the multitude of things you share, but this person will give you a very hard time in the long run, and its purpose is to be a teacher to you, a though teacher, so you can acknowledge all the toxic behaviours you hold or that are strongly active within you, and decide to clear them out of your life. Once you clear out those behaviours out, this person will eventually disappear from your life. If you run away from this person without clearing the behaviours first, you will encounter a similar person in the future, until you learn your lesson.

When falling in love becomes bitter sweet

Falling in love can become bitter sweet out of 4 reasons:

 1 : Fear of abandonment

The fear of abandonments is deep rooted in childhood experiences. As a child there might of been many moments when you felt abandoned. Maybe when you first went to kindergarden, maybe your parents worked a lot and left you alone a lot of hours, maybe your parents traveled a lot, maybe you grew up in a foster home. No matter the reasons, you developed this strong fear of being left by a loved one. As a child this fear was justified since you were depending on parents for survival, and let’s face it, if a parent abandons a baby, without offering it shelter and food , the baby could die. You must acknowledge that now as an adult you can perfectly depend on yourself, and even if a person you care for deeply leaves you, you will not die! Sure, you will be upset for a while, and maybe cry a little, or a lot, but you will not die! Because of this fear of abandonment, many people who fall in love, run away, simply to avoid the potential feeling of being left by a loved one. They prefer to be the first to do it, because it’s too painful for them to be the one that are being left. Or they will sabotage the relationship at the beginning of its development, especially when all things seem to be going perfect.

2: Codependency

Codependency occurs when a person lacks the ability to connect directly to Source Energy, or Love, or God or whatever you want to call it, and uses other people to do that.

Codependent people are usually very disconnected from selves, indulging in all types of distractions: partying, drinking, traveling, over eatings, video games, etc.  They get bored very easily, and need constant entertaining from outside sources.

When they fall in love, and discover all these positive aspects in someone, they connect to Source Energy indirectly, and get addicted to the person that can offer them that feeling, since they do not know how to provide that feeling on their own.

These people can also be people pleasers,  players (who date multiple people at a time), or suffer from some type of addiction, since once the person they admire leaves, they search immediately for a different supply. They are dependent on other people or substances to feel happy and to feel “love”.

The solution for this is reconnecting to self. To spend more time alone, in nature, without distractions, to meditate, to create some art, to dance, to sing, so you can establish the connection to Source Energy, or God, or Love or how ever you want to call it, directly, without other people.

3: Lack of Self Worth

Low self esteem may be developed in childhood , when we encounter parents or teachers that can’t be pleased. People who are not happy in their own lives, cannot be pleased no matter how much we try. You can go to these people and show them a Nobel Prize, and they still can find something to complain about : “Oh you won an award? Big deal, Tommy won 2 of them”. As a child you translate this as not being enough, and not being worthy, and always try to be better and better to impress some people that can never be impressed! Usually these children are the nerds or top achievers of the class, and easily become workaholics as adults. When they grow up and fall in love, they will never feel worthy enough for that person, and they will try to delay as much as possible to be with that person. There will always be something they want to achieve first before being with the person they love, not realizing that, number 1, they are enough as they are, number 2, the positive aspects they admire in loved ones are also in them, and number 3, you can always achieve more as a team.  If your romantic interest is someone like this, it can be very frustrating, because on one hand they will try to keep you close and hold on to you, but at the same time they will always need more time from you and delay as much as possible fully dedicating themselves to you, since there is always a goal they want to reach to feel enough.

4: Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection stems in caring too much of what other people think of us. This is rooted in our DNA, from times when we depended on others for survival, when basically we had to be part of a tribe to have shelter and food and protection. In our modern days that’s not the case anymore. In fact more people discover the beneficial and empowering aspects of being alone, and the emotional freedom of not caring what others think of us. When we fall in love with someone that has several traits that can threaten the approval of our family or friends, we may freeze and not follow our heart.  This is also related to number 2 : Codependency. We must find ways to be happy on our own without family and friends, so we can be free on making the choices that makes us happy and are in alignment with who we really are.

When the love fades out

The moment the spark fades away, is the moment you notice a negative aspect of the person you love, and you decide to focus on it. The focus on that negative aspect will make you feel very uncomfortable, for two reasons. First of all, if you noticed it, it means it already existed in you, in stagnant or activated form. If it was stagnant, now it gets activated. If it was already activated, now it gets amplified.  The good news for this, is now you get the chance to acknowledge it and clear it out. Once you clear it, the aspect you perceived negative before, won’t have such an impact on you. It will become neutral and then disappear from your perception. The second reason it makes you feel uncomfortable is because it acts as a reminder that you are disconnected from Source Energy, from Love, from God or whatever you want to call it. You can only notice a negative aspect from a negative place of being. That’s why it is very common our love for someone fades away when we are unhappy in our personal lives: maybe a sickness, stress from work or other issues that keep us in a low state of being. The easiest solution for this, is to re-focus on the positive aspects and get back in that high place.

I hope this article can bring some light into what happens within us when we fall in love, how we can maintain the feeling or rekindle it, and why we run away from it, even if it seems counterintuitive.

Lots of love and healing to you all!




Stop working so hard! It’s a trap!

As any person striving for achieving goals I came across in Youtube videos, media, books, TV shows or even movies, this idea that you need to work HARD to be successful. You need to hustle. You need to step out of your comfort zone. You need planners and TODO lists. You need to sweat.  You need to wake up at 5 a.m. in the morning and push hard.

Please don’t. It’s a trap! a trap perfectly set up by your mind, and your beliefs…and possible your mother.

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The secret to achieving all of your goals is to relax, be happy, and take action ONLY when you feel inspired to do so. That’s it. 

Now you will ask, if it’s that simple, where are all those people who barely do anything and have it all? well…there are everywhere around you, but you usually dismiss them as being lucky or happy go lucky. You know, the ones you kinda hate, cause they seem to receive everything so easily, without barely lifting a finger?

Maybe it brings you more satisfaction to say , well I did all of this, with SO MUCH HARD WORK! I’m not lucky, I go and jump and pull and sweat and hustle and muscle!

Yes, it might bring some satisfaction to say that. But this satisfaction is temporary. You only feel good once you achieve the goal. And that’s it. You might also get addicted to that feeling, and become a workaholic, feeling alive and happy for brief moments,  from achieved goal to achieved goal. Just like an occasional drug dose.   On the other hand, the happy go lucky ones, not only do they feel good towards the goal, they also feel good once they achieve it, and they achieve it even faster than the hard workers.

Let me further explain this with this river analogy.

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Let’s say you have to swim a distance of 1 km ..or 1 mile. The river flows from A to B, with a considerable speed.

The hard workers will start from B, and swim towards A, basically against the stream. It will be rough. At on point they will loose it, and the water will bring them back to B. After some bruised muscles, a lot of swollen water, and a couple of hours, they reach the goal. They are ecstatic! YES! they did it! afterwords they rush to the hospital.

The happy go luckies, will start from A, along the stream, and not swim at all. In fact, they will just lay on their backs and float, and let the water carry them to B. At some point they will tilt a bit, if they feel like it. They will close their eyes trusting the water. They will be in so much joy! They will feel like kids again, enjoying the ride. They reach the goal in 10 minutes. They want to go again!

Ok, sounds perfect in theory. How do we apply this in real life? Three words: Relax, Intuition and Trust.

Step 1 : RELAX

The first step is to relax, by doing all the possible things that bring you joy : a walk in nature, a good book, dancing, singing,  a good nap in clean sheets, a long bath, a nice cake, a cup of tea, a cup of coffee, some relaxing music, a trip, petting an animal, a massage, sex with your loved one, a good restaurant, daydreaming, meditating, attending a SPA, a glass of wine, chocolate, smelling some flowers, a sun bath …..the list goes on.

Try to relax as much as possible each day.

The purpose of relaxation is to quiet the mind- the number one enemy in blocking you from receiving all the good things in life with ease.


As you practice relaxation more and more, you become a better receiver of light and love energy from the universe. You simply allow things to flow to you. You become a radio station for receiving inspiration and great ideas. Once you are bombarded with these great ideas, write them down, or take action on them.

Haven’t you noticed how some of your best ideas and solutions pop in your head in the shower or after a good sleep, or even in the middle of the night? That’s because for a brief moment your body was relaxed and your mind was quiet!

Sometimes you will get a lot of ideas, but not feel inspired to act on them. That is perfectly fine. If you don’t feel an impulse to act on them, don’t. It might not be the right time to act on something.

For example, you might receive a good idea for a book, but don’t feel like publishing it yet. That’s ok. Maybe the universe is guiding you to publish it in December, because you will have more buyers than in March, due to the Holidays.


Well this is the hardest step where a lot of people fail. That’s because we always need to see proof of what we are desiring, to be happy. We live in a conditional world : “I will only be happy when..this and this happens”. That’s another trap!

Once you relaxed, harvested all the great ideas and took action on them, from a place of well being…it’s time to wait, and trust that things will work out for you behind the scenes, EVEN IF YOUR REALITY SHOWS YOU SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

If you took the appropriate action, but nothing happened yet, don’t panic, by taking further action, from a place of fear and impatience!

A lot of people get stuck at this step, because in life, just like in nature, everything needs some time to bloom. You plant the seed, you water it, you watch it grow, and after some time you harvest.

You can’t plant the seed, and go to collect the fruit the next day, when the plant hasn’t even germinated.

So after taking the action on your ideas, go back to step 1 and relax again, have patience and trust! even if in the present moment there is no evidence that your actions worked, just say again and again : ” Everything works out for me. Everything works out for me.” And it will. I promise.

Lots of love to you all!








The people in your life combined are YOU

In this article I’m going to explain how the people surrounding you, in your day to day life, from the supermarket cashier, to your coworker, to your best friend,  to your spouse, combined together, are actually….. you.

Chapter 1 : Core Values -Virtues and Vices

Our core values are made up of virtues and vices. To understand this better lets choose 10 virtues, and 10 vices, as an example, and attribute different colors  for each one, so you can identify them in the further images.

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The virtues that we posses at our core,  never change. Once we learn a virtue, in this lifetime, or in other lifetimes, it sticks in our core forever, because expansion can’t be reversed. It is true we might forget about it, and it might become stagnant, but it will never disappear from our core.

We also have some core vices. These can change in a lifetime, but usually it’s not that easy. Major life changes and experiences can cause us to remove a vice from our core, but it may take multiple lifetimes, depending on each soul.

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When you live your day to day life, these core values, are not activated all at the same time. Depending on your past experiences, present decisions, and outer influences, that you cannot control, you will be tempted to focus only on certain virtues, or vices each day.

Sometimes, we can have a core value, that has not been activated in a long time, and it may become stagnant,  but it won’t disappear completely.

No matter the circumstances, we always have a choice on what to focus, thus what is activating within us and what not.

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Chapter 2 : The people around us

Ok, so now let’s explain how the people around us, are actually…us.

Well, you will always attract in your life, someone that has one or a couple of core values as you do. It may be activated in them more than in you and vice-versa, but you cannot attract something that is not already in you.

Since each day is not quite the same, sometimes you feel more happy and sometimes more sad, the people with whom you interact each day will differ.

The more close to you a person is, or in other words, the more time you spend with someone, the more core values you have in common with that person, or you have a few that are highly activated in both of you, thus making you two a match.

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When we incarnate to this planet, our purpose is to dissolve certain vices, or to learn new virtues. The contrast in this reality is powerful enough to create an important shift within us.

To dissolve a certain vice, we must activate more of its opposite, until the vice is completely erased from our core values. For example, love is the opposite of fear, so the more we focus on love, the more fear will be deactivated, becoming stagnant, and then it will be pushed away (repelled).

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An other way to get rid of vices, is to occupy as much of the core space as possible with virtues, either by activating all the ones you already posses or learn new ones. This will leave too little space for the vices to occupy, since the virtues have priority in the core circle.

This explains how certain people from your life simply go away naturally. Either you move away from each other, or simply stop talking, and neither of you has the impulse to keep it going, since the thing that hold you together is now long gone.

That’s why it is never a good idea to force things and try to maintain a relationship with someone that has nothing in common with you anymore, cause it can cause even more problems. Imagine trying to stick together 2 magnets with the repelling poles. It takes a lot of force and it won’t last.

The same applies to the opposite situation, when you feel a strong pull towards someone, but you force yourself to stay away, because of various societal reasons. This act takes a lot of effort and can cause misery in the long run.

As a side note, this theory applies to everything you attract, not only people.  It applies to animals, plants and objects, since they can absorb and reflect back to us certain values.

Chapter 3 : Soulmates

Lately I’m noticing a lot of articles around the topic of toxic relationships versus soulmate relationships. Let’s dig a bit into that, from the above perspective.

So basically, a toxic relationship, is one in which the things that bind you two together are mostly vices and not virtues. You get angry at the same things, you complain about the same things, and you hate the same kind of people. These type of relationships are really dangerous, because besides the fact that the vices in you are highly activated most of the time, in the presence of this person, you will also have multiple virtues to activate or to learn to dissolve the vices, and thus repelling your “dearly beloved”. Some people need multiple lifetimes to do this.

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Technically this person is your soul “mate”, since you have things in common with them, but they are the kind of soulmate that will push you further the HARD WAY. You will learn virtues but after experiencing a lot of pain and turmoil.

Now let’s talk about the other type of soulmate. The good kind. Ever heard of the saying : “you bring out the best in me” ? Well that’s the one..

This is the soulmate that will activate in you the virtues. They may awaken some virtues that you had stagnant for a long time within you, and you are pushed to activate them. This is the person you will feel unconditional love towards to, you will laugh a lot with, have good times, and feel blissful, grateful, loving, and at peace. They will make you a better person, but through love, not through pain.

Chapter 4 : Conclusions

  • The people around us are actually us ( not only people)
  • If someone suddenly fades away from your life, let them go
  • If you feel a strong pull towards someone, don’t fight to stay away, at least not until you find out what pulls you two together.
  • To get rid of someone you don’t like, recognise the vices that stick you 2 together, and activate the opposite virtues or learn new virtues
  • If a long lost friend returns in your life after a long time, you have gained new but similar values in this time frame
  • If someone calls you only in the worst moments possible, now you know why.


So, I hope this information can help you in your journey, and be more aware of the people around you and how to change that. It is not always easy to do so, but the first step in everything in gaining knowledge.

Lots of love to you all!





Should you trust people?


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This is not a tutorial on how to trust someone. This is not a checklist of what makes someone trustworthy or not. This is not a list of ‘red flags’ you should watch out for.

You cannot control the actions of others. The only reason you crave so much for trust, is due to your own insecurities. You just want everyone to promise you that they won’t hurt you. You want assurance that they won’t lie and deceive you.  So in this case, is it really about them?

When you are saying you don’t trust someone, you are actually saying you don’t trust in your own ability to get over whatever wrong is being done to you.

So basically you don’t trust in your own power. In the power to say, “oh well, the fact that this person chose to be deceitful towards me, is not my problem. I’m just gonna get on with my life. I can be happy anyway. I can get passed this.”

How freeing is that? You allow other people the freedom to be and do whatever they choose, and you allow yourself to be happy even if the action of others threatens you.

Does this mean you have to be a rug on which everyone can step on? Does this mean you have to spend time with deceitful people, just because their behaviour doesn’t affect you much? NO. Of course not.

Just because something doesn’t bother you, doesn’t mean you agree with it, or that it’s a part of your value system.

It’s just saves you of all that worry about someone doing something to you. Because let’s face it. When you are in a place of worry, your mind won’t be clear enough anyway, to make the best judgements and decisions.

Another fact to consider is, they may not even doing anything on purpose. Some people are just used to act in a certain way, with everybody. It is just part of who they are, and the fact that you worry or suffer over their actions, will not make them a better person. It’s up to them to make a change, and change is not easy most of the time.

So the next time you encounter someone that triggers worry or fear inside you, a so called “red flag”, that this person is not trustworthy, take a step back and ask yourself these questions:

-what experience from the past has triggered this feeling inside me? is it helping me?

-do I have actual proof of the things I fear, or do I just imagine them?

-do I have all the information?

-if the things I fear become a reality, how hard it is for me to overcome them?

Once you acknowledge all the factors that contribue to your fears, take a deep breath and proceed with action.

If you consider it is a lot harder to overcome the idea of your fears becoming a reality, than the idea of letting someone go, or staying away, without giving a second change or the benefit of the doubt, do that. Always chose the path of least resistance. Just make sure you don’t hold any regrets about it.

Love to you all!




Wisdom Bombs

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Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night with some inspirational quotes in my head, that will haunt me for days. Other times, they just come to me spontaneously, after weeks or days of questions in my head.

Since I can’t write a whole article around one single idea all the time, I decided to include them all here, and call them Wisdom Bombs. Enjoy!

Freedom is allowing yourself to enjoy and stay in the present moment.

The people around you have nothing against you. The environment around you has nothing against you. Their role is to help you know yourself better.

You don’t hate something or someone. The hate is already inside you and you choose where to direct it. You don’t love something or someone. The love is already inside you and you choose where to direct it. 

Autumn is a kind reminder of transformation.

When you do something out of love, there is no wrong decision.

If you want to heal your past, just heal your present moment.

Appreciation is the fastest way to a better life.

When encountering a problem, don’t try to fix the problem, try to fix your perception about the “problem”.

When having to decide between multiple people, chose yourself.

To be continued…

Why do you attract certain people and how to change that

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You create your own reality. The basis of your creation is in how you feel. The way you feel will lead you to certain thoughts, that eventually will manifest in the physical form, if held for more than 16 seconds.  The people in your life are co-creators to your own reality, by constantly showing you how you feel.

Please remember this: the people around you are not an indication of who you are, they are an indication of how you feel.

If you feel sad, you will attract people who will tell you certain things, or act in a certain way, that will point out to you how sad you actually are. If you feel angry, you will attract certain people that will point out to you how angry you actually are.  So for example, if you are a little angry, you will get a little angry at them, even if they yell like crazy, and if you are very very angry, you will yell at them like crazy, even if they just winked at you. Your first reaction is to blame them for how they made you feel, but with further analysis you will realize that the feeling was already there. By “there”, I mean in your vibrational field. It doesn’t matter if you managed to distract yourself in the moment with some activities, as long as something is in your vibrational field, you will attract a match to it, so you can acknowledge it, so you can question it, so you can decide upon how helpful it is to you, and so you can clear it out, in case it is not helpful.

How does a feeling get in your vibrational field in the first place? Simple : By focusing on it.

If for example, at some point you experienced a feeling, and you kept your focus on it, it got attached to your vibrational field. If you want to get rid of it, just stop focusing on it.

So for example if someone comes at you with abusive words, try not to focus on it more than 16 seconds, and it will not attach to your vibrational field, thus you will not attract that kind of behavior in the future.

Focus on the positive aspects in people. Focus on the positive aspects in yourself and in your environment, and slowly but steady you will clear your vibrational field of unwanted things. The key is to keep your focus on a positive aspect for more than 16 seconds, and you will attract more of those positive aspects.

This is what actually forgiveness is. Forgiveness is the ability to not focus on the actions of others. The more we focus on the actions towards us, and the feeling that comes with that, the more it will remain in our vibrational field, thus attracting more of that.

We cannot control how others react. But we can certainly  decide how we feel towards how others act, by changing our focus.

Always ask yourself: Do I want to be right? or do I want to be happy? Do I want to control what this person thinks of me, or do I want to be happy? Do I want this person’s approval, or do I want to be happy?

I for one, would definitely choose to be happy every single time! Happy, haaappy, happy!

Stay happy!

How to make decisions in life


The process of making decisions , from deciding on small things like what you will have for dinner, to bigger things, like choosing from two different paths or partners, is something that we should constantly work on to improve, and we should treat with high importance and from a place of consciousness.

First of all the time spent on making decisions can result on ruining solid foundations , when we act quick, without judgement, or can result in anxiety and sleepless nights, when we indulge in overthinking.

More than that, life itself as you experience it, is a direct result of your past, present and future decisions, which makes them even more of high importance. Just look around and you can see the physical manifestation of your choices. The people you spend time with, the home you are living in, the job you go to everyday, the food you are eating and so on. The concept of “I had no choice” , is just an illusion. Sure, it was best to choose something at some point considering the circumstances, to avoid some type of suffering, but you always have a choice.

Most people rely on logic when making decisions. They make a list of ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ and go with the option with less ‘cons’. Logic can be a very helpful friend in some situations and can ease some of the burdens when things get overwhelming. But it can also become an enemy against your truest heart desires.

What am I talking about? Let me introduce you to the toughest decisions you have to make in life: the ones where your mind is in contradiction with your heart.
The ones where everything makes perfect sense on paper, but something just doesn’t feel right. The ones where everyone and everything is against it, but something just calls you to go for it. The ones where you have to choose between 2 options that both have ‘pros’ and ‘cons’, but in different areas. That something, that apparently has no logical sense, can keep you blocked in a situation for a long period of time, and it is very important to recognize if it comes from intuition or fear.

Intuition will fight to keep your soul alive and prosper. Fear will fight to keep your ego alive and prosper.
Intuition is there to help you follow your life purpose, ego is there to help you follow other peoples life purpose.

A way to distinguish the two, is by analyzing how some situations make you feel.

Take a piece of paper and analyze an important past decision you made at one time.
How did you feel after the made decision settled in your life?

The choices made with your intuition will make you feel liberated, free, alive, motivated, full of joy, grateful, at peace, calm , serene, content, hopeful, but it may come with the downside of feeling rejected or judged by others, or feeling unsure of your material and financial stability.

2. Fear
The choices made from fear, will make you feel safe, comfortable, stable in the material world, accepted by the fellow people around you and easy to integrate with them, but it may come with anxiety, extreme boredom, tendency to overindulge in sex, drugs, alcohol, food or partying, minor or major health problems, problems with waking early in the morning, lack of motivation, confusion, and feeling lost.

So , for making future decisions, let’s try an imagination exercise. Picture your life as if the decision is already made. How a day in your life looks like? How do you feel? How does your day pass by?
Even tho there are a lot of unknown factors, you can still use imagination to predict how it will be based on your present. Take action towards what your intuition dictates you.

An other simple trick you can use, is to flip a coin and let faith decide for you no matter what. Let’s say you have to chose between option A and option B. While you flip the coin, pay attention to what you wish deep down to obtain. If you got option B, and feel very disappointed, or the need to flip one more time, maybe option A is what you truly desire.

I personally skip the coin part, and just ask myself “Should I chose option A?”. The first answer that comes loud and clear is the right one for me. Usually I hear a clear YEEES or NOOOO in an instant. I use this method also for small things, like which way should I walk next, or what should I eat today. It works wonders for me and it makes life much easier.

Once you made your decision, trust in it! Remove any doubt. Remember, there are no bad or good decisions. Usually you will encounter the same type of people and lessons along the way, that best fit your personal journey. The only difference is that some choices may get you to the knowledge much faster than others and with less obstacles.

Much love to you all!

What is true love

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Since the moment we are born, no matter how hard we deny it, we all want to feel loved, to share love and understand it. All the relationships we have along the way, with our parents, siblings, friends and lovers, will determine how we see love and unfortunately will make us sometimes associate love with pain and suffering.

The highest pain and suffering doesn’t come from lack of love, but actually from the blockage of love.

You see love is actually an energy that flows from the Divine into the entire Universe and in ourselves.

The more we try to fight it and deny it, the more we suffer.

Certain events and relationships makes us block our body from receiving this pure energy. Rejection, abandonment, criticism or abusive behavior can cause deep wounds and blocks inside our energetic and physical body. By meeting certain people in our lives, the wounds are triggered and can manifest detoxification and purification or further blockage , depending on how we respond. If we let the old wounds block the normal flow of the Divine Love energy, we will experience sorrow and heartache. We must understand that we are only vessels that transport this energy into us and into others.
Out of this reason, true love CAN exist only one sided. Even if we are rejected we can still love someone unconditionally because we simply allow the flow of energy. The other person may not be open to receive this energy because of personal blockages or because the other person is not triggered by you to open up his/her heart to the Love energy.

Most often we tend to confuse love for something else. We confuse love with attachment or lust.
To be truly certain if we experience true love towards someone, we must first question our self love and how happy we are on our own. We must understand that the role of an other person is not to fill our gaps and make us happy or less lonely. That is our own quest to achieve. We must first attain happiness in ourselves, so we can share that happiness with others. We must first fill our own cup with love, so much that it overflows into others. We cannot truly love another person until we learn to truly love ourselves.
If you ever have to choose between multiple partners, pay attention to when you need them most. If you turn to them only when you are in lack, when you feel sad, lonely or discouraged or even horny then it is attachment or lust. If you turn to them when you are extremely happy and want to share that with them it is true love. Of course you can turn to them when you are confused and need guidance or advice, or to have a fruitful conversation that will enlighten you or both of you somehow, but it is not healthy to turn to them only when you need your cup to be filled, because that shows you are only using them for your own personal satisfaction.

The role of a romantic relationship that shares true love has actually a higher meaning that procreating and setting a family. It is actually a collaboration to make the world a better place. Each partner brings out an amount of masculine and feminine energy to create a perfect balance, that is very powerful in achieving great things in the world. Each partner shares something the other ones lacks, and together they are unstoppable. It is important that both partners are happy on their own, so they can be ready to share their happiness with each other and with the entire world. Their common happiness is not meant to be held only for themselves. It must inspire and heal, it serves as support and hope for other people. Such an environment is also beneficial for bringing in children, either conceived or adopted, so they can focus on important things from an early age, surrounded by the power of true love, and not suffer from the drama of two unfulfilled parents.

If you are single right now do not freak out! You can also trigger true love on your own without a partner. You just need to be willing to heal your past wounds caused by neglective parents or romantic partners, to spend time with yourself, know yourself better, love and appreciate yourself. It’s important you find a purpose in your life, to feel a part of something, to inspire and to create, to play like a child on the Earth’s playground. Once you achieve that, you will attract the right partner to be by your side in your mission, and to cocreate a better world.

Love to you all!

How to find a true answer to "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?"

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After finishing collage, having a degree in computer science, like any other fresh graduate, I started job scouting, and preparing for interviews.

I was interviewing for a software engineer position in several multinational companies, and I noticed one of the common questions were : “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Being a little naive and out of track in life back then I had a typical answer: “Well, in 5 years I see myself as a Team Leader, managing my own team”. I don’t know why I’m reading this in a low voice in my head, haha.

This answer was not entirely my fault. It was a belief impregnated in me by society, that success equals career, more specifically, what your job title says you are.

Something “cool” and “important” to add to your Facebook and Linkedin profile, something to brag about at your 10 year school reunion, something that makes your bank account look impressive.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not against having a nice corporation title, as long as, you get up in the morning excited to go to work, you have passion for what you do, you become a better you through it, you learn and evolve each day professionally and as a person.

That being said, I can put right there, next to this description, the definition of a successful person.

So, let me answer to you, the classic “where do you see yourself in 5 years” question.

Here it is.

In 5 years, I see myself going to bed at night thinking with excitement about the day to come, especially if it’s a Monday!

I see myself inspiring millions of people. I see myself very wise, from all the knowledge I acquire each day, but also still learning. I see myself handling each problem with a calm state of mind. I see myself financial free, where money is not a problem. I see myself bringing to life all the ideas that come to my mind. I see myself serving other people through my talents and skills.

Does this sound like success? Yes or yes?

So, where do you see yourself in 5 years?